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Book Review for ” The Power of Full Engagement”

Book Review for “The Power of Full Engagement” Having recently received my Mental First Aider certificate, I have been reviewing some past mental health and leadership resources. This message is timeless, and relevant even 20 years after it was first written. Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz offer The Power of Full Engagement to demonstrate that managing energy, not time, is the key to becoming physically energized, emotionally connected, mentally focused, and spiritually aligned on and off the job. The authors present a holistic approach to development, renewal, and leadership that provides powerful insights and incentives to individuals in every walk of life. While some of the book does pertain to our roles as leaders in organizations, it definetly sketches a profile of how their principles apply to the whole person. “Leaders are the stewards of organizational energy—in companies, organizations and even in families. They inspire or demoralize others first by how effectively they manage their own energy and next by how well they mobilize, focus, invest and renew the collective energy of those they lead. The skillful management of energy, individually and organizationally, makes possible something that we call ‘full engagement.” Consider the opening paragraphs of this book. “We live in digital time. Our rhythms are rushed, rapid fire and relentless, our days carved up into bits and bytes. We celebrate breadth rather than depth, quick reaction more than considered reflection. We skim across the surface, alighting for brief moments at dozens of destinations but rarely remaining for long at any one. We race through our lives without pausing to consider who we really want to be or where we really want to go. We’re wired up but we’re melting down.” “Most of us are just trying to do the best that we can. When demand exceeds our capacity, we begin to make expedient choices that get us through our days and nights, but take a toll over time. We survive on too little sleep, wolf down fast foods on the run, fuel up with coffee and cool down with alcohol and sleeping pills. Faced with relentless demands at work, we become short-tempered and easily distracted. We return home from long days at work feeling exhausted and often experience our families not as a source of joy and renewal, but as one more demand in an already overburdened life.”   The authors, Loehr and Schwartz, developed a Corporate Athlete Training System based in 25 years of research with some the world’s greatest athletes to help them perform more effectively under brutal competitive pressures. They recommend the following principles: Principle 1: Full engagement requires drawing on four separate but related sources of energy: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Principle 2: Because energy diminishes both with overuse and with underuse, we must balance energy expenditure with intermittent energy renewal. Principle 3: To build capacity we must push beyond our normal limits, training in the same systematic way that elite athletes do. Principle 4: Positive energy rituals-highly specific routines for managing energy-are the key to full engagement and sustained high performance.Making change that lasts requires a 3-step process: Define Purpose Face the Truth Take Action. The authors describe the connectivity of the 4 sources of energy (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual) in  “The Mind and Body Are One”. Two key words are used, flexibility and resilience. Notice: Physical strength, endurance, flexibility and resilience we readily grasp at the physical level, however these markers also are applicable to our mental, emotional, and spiritual capacity.     “Emotional flexibility reflects the capacity to move freely and appropriately along a wide spectrum of emotions rather than responding rigidly or defensively. Emotional resilience is the ability to bounce back from experiences of disappointment, frustration and even loss.   Mental endurance is a measure of the ability to sustain focus and concentration over time, while mental flexibility is marked by the capacity to move between the rational and the intuitive and to embrace multiple points of view.   Spiritual strength is reflected in the commitment to one’s deepest values, regardless of circumstance and even when adhering to them involves personal sacrifice. Spiritual flexibility, by contrast, reflects the tolerance for values and beliefs that are different than one’s own, so long as those values and beliefs don’t bring harm to others.  In short, to be fully engaged requires strength, endurance, flexibility and resilience in all dimensions.” From their research the authors offer many cases examples to demonstrate that their approaches are factual and that they work. It’s a breakthrough discovery and could save careers and help transform organizations if their approach is followed. I say “if” because, like any new regime, this approach will run into a set of corporate obstacles, principally the resistance of top management in finding and implementing these ideas. Some of what the authors advises, wise though it may be, will run right into the face of traditions in the workplace many are unwilling to change. The authors plainly apply one of Aristotle his leading principles (in medio stat veritute, “virtue lies in the middle”), however, they show that balance is not static–a middle, dead zone–but is found by balancing one extreme (stress) against the other (recovery). That’s the key to full engagement. Stress and recovery have to be done in balance (as with physical exercise) and it is necessary to plunge fully into both to get out of the dead zone in the middle. Most performance in today’s organizations is in this middle ground between rest and stress; but the high achievers stretch their capacity enough to let it bounce back stronger the next time after a reprieve.  Most workers and managers don’t do either: they live and work in a zone of half-tired, half-dozing caused by our culture’s ignorance of–and hostility toward–managing energy naturally and effectively. The back end of the book is devoted to “The Training System” which are chapters that guide the reader to take action and get results. Attitude, rituals, daily tasks, diet, vision, and purpose are analyzed and described. And a summary of the Corporate Athlete caps it

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Book Review for “U-Turns: What if You Woke Up One Morning and Realized You Were Living the Wrong Life?”

Book Review for “U-Turns: What if You Woke Up One Morning and Realized You Were Living the Wrong Life?” “What if You Woke Up One Morning and Realized You Were Living the Wrong Life?” All of us dream from time to time of overhauling our lives; of shedding the old self, with its tired habits, complacency, and disillusionment, and taking on some utterly different, more focused and fulfilled life. Bruce Grierson, authored a book titled, U-Turns: What if You Woke Up One Morning and Realized You Were Living the Wrong Life?(Bloombury, Apr. 2007. 352p) Grierson examines people who have experienced a conversion, an epiphany, a paradigm shift, an awakening, and these life-altering reversals his title calls “U-turns.” He considers the stories of more than 300 people who made such changes. He shares dozens of cases of these reversals: retail executives who suddenly turn into committed anti-consumerist activists, the politician who switches parties and a Wall Street bond trader who drops everything one day and moves their family to a farm on the Canary Islands. Others in humbler quarters routinely do the same: the ad executive who becomes a media critic, the prosecutor who becomes a social worker, an army lawyer “charged with prosecuting homosexual soldiers” devotes the rest of his life to defending homosexuals against prosecution and the butcher who becomes a vegan. I add Bill Gates who is spending less time earning money than giving it away and pulling other billionaires into the deep end of global philanthropy with him.    “What if it seemed YOU were living the wrong life?”   Do you keep living it or do you follow the “brain in your gut” and get another life? There are those who chucked families, fortunes, power, and prestige and others in the crunch who turned 180 degrees and chose paths different than the ones they were on. Gauguin, Apostle Paul, Gandhi, Rosa Parks, Cassius Clay and Malcolm X, — but many are unknown. These turnarounds may be secular, political, and religious. Some work out well, others don’t. Eckhart Toller, in 1977, at the age of 29, after having suffered from long periods of suicidal depression, says he experienced an “inner transformation”. He woke up in the middle of the night, suffering from feelings of depression that were “almost unbearable”. Tolle says of the experience,  “I couldn’t live with myself any longer. And in this a question arose without an answer: who is the ‘I’ that cannot live with the self? What is the self? I felt drawn into a void. I didn’t know at the time that what really happened was the mind-made self, with its heaviness, its problems, that lives between the unsatisfying past and the fearful future, collapsed. It dissolved. The next morning I woke up and everything was so peaceful. The peace was there because there was no self. Just a sense of presence or “beingness”, just observing and watching.”  Others results are wrenching, some are baffling and a few are downright alarming. Grierson shares commentary from philosophers, psychologists, researchers and theoreticians to his discussion of personal change. Some stories crumble under scrutiny. Daily someone experiences a wake-up call. They sense they have gotten things terribly wrong. Somehow, they are on the wrong side. Something” tells them that life can’t go on this way. And so, on moral, or at least deeply personal, grounds, they make a “U-turn”. All of us dream from time to time of overhauling our lives. Of shedding the old self, with its tired habits, complacency, and disillusionment, and taking on some utterly different, more focused and fulfilled identity. The shift may be sparked by an external event—the collapse of a marriage, the loss of a mentor, a close brush with death a dead end route that leads straight to jail or prison—that sharpens the urge to invest what life remains with meaning. Very few experience the flash of desire for change act on it as Malcolm X did in his transformation from petty criminal to revered African-American leader. With most of us it stops with the dream or thinking. Often the reversal is simply the result of a private crisis of conscience. One day, after years of uncomfortable mental conflict, you can’t quite meet your eyes in the mirror. You stop. You confront the choices that have taken you slowly or rapidly off course. You defect—blowing up bridges behind you, marching into the arms of a new future sometimes greatly disconnected with the first life. However it comes there are the pregnant moments where a very tiny change in input results in a huge change in output. I immediately think of the “inevitable” midlife crisis, however, Grierson does away with the concept of the mid-life crisis, I think not convincingly. . He contends the seeds of change are sown long before the actual shift. Although his subjects and most of us like to tell our story as one of a lightning bolt of inspiration with a complex narrative point (for the sake of good storytelling), Grierson sees it as more of a gradual shift in perception. We can think “My God, I’m lost and there’s no hope” or “I’m lost; maybe this is a good time to make a change.” Although there are exceptions, the U-turner is most often male, usually about 40 and with a substantial income, which seems logical enough. It’s tough to change and easier if you can afford it. I have often said with some humor, “I like to dedicate my life to making plenty of money and at 40 see that as useless, keep the money, but do something that makes for change.” Rick Warren’s book so popular with the Baby-boomers comes to mind. The Purpose Driven Life was selling a million copies a month for a while. Warren said the book was not necessarily for really religious people. He called it a non-denominational book that urges people to explore what they were put on this earth to do. A lot of the Promise Keepers and so

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